A premature thought: Arranged Marriage

A Premature Thought: Arranged Marriage

This could be a very highly premature thought. Probably 50 years ago, it would've been a very lately thought thought. Anyway, I find the institution of arranged marriage to be something that'd be bad, something unfriendly, something temporary.

I believe that the vedic customs and traditions can't be followed forever. I believe that traditions must be continually changing with the dynamic society. Society is not the same as it was a minute ago. 

Every other act in a society without dynamic traditions, would be a criminal act. Every other act would be blasphemous and unethical. In a society where MODERN technology plays a dominant role, VEDIC traditions and customs work with great difficulty. Where are the customs now that were once very prevalent and important? Who lights up diyas? Who checks vaasthu? Who actually does all Shit they must for some pooja or something? A fast life demands a fast changing custom. 

Imagine living the rest of your life with someone you've just met. How can you go marry someone whom you've known tops for a month when people can act fake for years and years and lifetimes to come? Would divorce be a remedy? "Oh no! Divorce? How dishonorable is that??! How would we raise our heads?!" Practically, a life filled with divorces would make the society with memory bondless and chain-broken with each other. The only advantage is lawyers getting richer. 

Well, think of living the rest of your life with someone you've known for a loooooong time. A time period enough to say that that person and myself can live!! Atleast the attachment between you and the other person is strong enough and not breakable by random comments and misguidance. Spending your whole life with someone you know would result in completely knowing the other person rather than marry a person you've known for a month or a year and not know them at all.

I once had this crazy or whatever dream which I don't even know the purpose of dreaming. It was all messed up. An ostentatious wedding. It was my wedding for some reason. Very lavish and guests were pouring in. I recognised few, some, I did not recognise nor wanted to/ felt like recognising. It was a marriage i had no clue about. Something I had not known at all. Maybe it was symbolic of the enigma and questions aroused in a person's mind before an arranged marriage. Maybe its the dilemma or confusion or a state of being lost. When I mingled with people and when they asked me about my 'fiancee' all I was able to do was stay quiet. I did not even know her name. Her face, when I saw it, was one of a stranger's. I did not live in the dream long enough to see the conclusion of it. I hope I did not get married in the dream. Sometimes i'm grateful I woke up!

If it was a person I actually knew and liked and wanted to marry, I'd curse myself for waking up.